Depends Depends on the parents...my mother in law dont like female foreigners. She calls me gaijin gaijin all the time & talks rubbish about how her son "my husband" copes with such a strong wife like I am invisible, Advice for you...dont tell them anything just agree. by A.Osaka 2008/12/18
personal experience Hi Curious. I was very impressed by A.Osaka, her mother in law calling her "gaijin" is very rude, but fortunately this seems to me to be a very rare case, by seeing the situation of all my friends married to Japanese. I'm married with a Japanese man too, and I must say I feel very loved (not only accepted!) by his family. I do think it depends on the family and the person... If you behave correctly and demonstrate affection, then no ethnic matter gets in... in most cases, at least. One important point: in my case, my husband's behaviour was very helpful. He has always been ready to explain possibile cultural differences to his parents in order to avoid any misunderstanding, so as he's always been supportive to me when I happened to be surprised by his family's behaviour, or when language troubles came in. A bit more patience than usual is required in inter-cultural marriages, but nothing that cannot be solved by some patience and understanding. by xyz 2008/12/18